ADVICE TO INCOMING PARENTS FROM PARENTS WHO'VE  BEEN THERE

     This advice comes directly from current and former Centre parents.           

          "Parent orientation was informative and comprehensive. It is very important to take the time to attend.      Because our student visited twice (one time she spent the night with a student) we all felt we knew about      Centre and there were no surprises." William & Carolyn Sheron

          "Offer lots of love and support, a small amount of questions, and advice only when asked (and with      the full understanding that your advice may be rejected). Centre is a pretty safe place to      make mistakes and learn from them."

     "Remember, you are a guest in your student's dorm."

          "Let them struggle with their own problems before intervening. Discuss a budget before they go." M/M John      H. Clark, III

          "Listen very, very carefully when you are urged to disinvite your child home for the first 4-6 weeks. My      husband and I ignored this advice and our daughter had a much more difficult time adjusting to college/dorm      life than other students." Brenda Curtz

     "No child tires of hearing that his parents are proud of him - for whatever reason." Marcia Hermann

          "We found it was cheaper to get a cell phone with long distance in the plan than to get other long
     distance options. Plus there's the additional benefit of having a phone when driving to and from
     campus." John and Toni Goetzman

          "The son or daughter that you leave in Danville in September will not be the same person that returns to you      in May. The growth curve is about as great as it was between birth and one year - so expect great changes."      Franklin Foster

          "Take special care of the siblings left at home. They miss their brother/sister as much as you do, so be      kind to them and don't dump the missing child's responsibilities on the one that remains." Franklin
     Foster

          "Try to treat your student like an adult now - especially when you're on campus! Good luck!" Mary Beth      Brown

          "Email. Get pre-paid phone cards. Send Walmart gift cards. Get a pharmacy number in town and set
     up an account."

          "I think the most important thing is to be patient and let them know you are always there for them no
     matter what. I also think it is good to send things like food and snail mail so that your child has
     something in their mailbox occasionally." Jeff and Cherry Calender

          "I have to honestly commend Centre. Our son is our first to go to college, and I honestly can say we
     were well prepared by the school to handle this! Our son fell into college life easily, and we are certain
     it is because this school knows how to get a family ready to go to college. Our son is so happy at
     Centre...it was absolutely the best choice. The school cares about their students, it is small enough,
     and they have the time to care!" Robert and Kathleen Dunworth

          "Family Weekend was wonderful. We were most impressed on August 28th when we 'gave our son' to
     this school. The people waiting to help us move in and get settled - it was fantastic! As a mother, I can
     tell you when your child leaves home for the first time and adjusts this easily and is as happy as he is,
     the school has it together and is doing it right. I'm letting everyone in Tennessee know about Centre!"
     Robert and Kathleen Dunworth

          "Expect lots of phone calls. Anticipate 'ups' and 'downs.' Be prepared to hear "the classes are too hard!"      Then, after about six weeks, relax. They do settle in. In terms of the dorm room, the closets are roomier than      the dressers so bring lots of hangers. Also, a sturdy stand or table to use for computer equipment that won't fit      on the desk is a must." Jennie Ivey

     SEVERAL PARENTS OFFERED THIS ADVICE:

          "Be considerate with what you bring for the room - remember there is a roommate and they should           share the space equally. Less is more! DON'T bring everything in your closet, all your books, CDs, etc. You      can always rotate clothes and music through the year. DO bring a few favorite items to make it seem like      home - mugs, photos, stuffed animals, etc. DON'T bring too much stuff. There is limited storage/closet space      in the dorm rooms." John and Toni Goetzman, Mary Beth Brown, David and Nancy James

     ALSO:

          "Let them make their own decisions, decide what they want to bring, arrange the room, etc. Give opinions      only when asked! Allow them to be independent from the start, figure out their finances, laundry, etc. I found      the fewer suggestions I made, the better." Katie Wolnitzek, George Mackenzie

     AND THE MOST IMPORTANT ADVICE:

          "If you can bear to do so, let them call you instead of you calling them. They are very busy, but sometimes      too nice to say "I've got to go, I've got _____ to do." Franklin Foster

          "We found we needed to adjust our expectations with regard to communication. What works for us is to      have our student call us on Sunday evenings at her convenience. Email works well in-between." John and Toni      Goetzman

          "Communicate a lot. Use email, letters. Send hometown news, football scores, other news. Let your      kid know what you know about the friends they left. Everyone likes mail." George Mackenzie

     "Email your child frequently. It's the most effective way to communicate." Donna Leach

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